7 things your significant other should never ask

No matter how close a relationship is, it's important to respect personal boundaries. Not only can you read this article, but you can also put it into practice.


1. Ignore angry outbursts and physical abuse

Your partner has no right to ask you to ignore, deny or take responsibility for his or her aggression toward you. As family therapist Carrie Krawiec points out, by doing so, he or she is blaming you for his or her behaviour.
In a healthy relationship, each person is responsible for their own actions, thoughts and feelings.

2. Isolating yourself from family and friends

The decision about who you connect with, how much and when, should always be yours. If your significant other or chosen one tries to isolate you from your loved ones, it's a sign of emotional abuse, points out relationship coach Shula Melamed.
The only thing your partner can ask of you is to spend more time with your family and friends to strengthen your bond with them. It's not the same when he limits your communication.

3. Minimize your successes.

A partner's normal reaction to your achievements is pride. Irritation or threats indicate his insecurity.

If you feel guilty or annoyed when something good happens to you, if you can't share it, your personal boundaries are being violated.

4- Give up your financial independence or quit

By allowing your partner to control your wallet, you potentially make yourself vulnerable and dependent on them, Kravets notes. If you can't manage the family budget equally, mutual respect as a couple is called into question.

5. Accept unacceptable behavior from family and friends

Do your partner's friends not respect your personal space or are his parents rude to you? He shouldn't expect you to simply accept it. Otherwise, either the couple prefers to avoid confrontation with their loved ones, or the relationship with them is more important to her than with you. So, again, mutual respect is out of the question.

6. Change fundamentally.

If a partner demands that you give up your beliefs, convictions or values, this is a very dangerous signal, warns Shula Melamed. It means they don't accept your identity.

7. Become a mediator.

It's not normal for a couple to ask you to be a "patsy" for someone, like their parents.
Sometimes a partner will say, "Tell my mom..." which makes you the middleman in their relationship and absolves them of responsibility for their words.